I Ain’t Got to do Nothin But Stay Black and Die: Why I’m no Longer Obligated

“All the lovely women living in your blood are trying to teach you their soft magic. Please pay attention to them” Upile Chisala I can still hear my Nanie’s (my maternal grandmother) words echoing, “I ain’t got to do nothing but stay black and die” when referring to something somebody told her she had ourContinue reading “I Ain’t Got to do Nothin But Stay Black and Die: Why I’m no Longer Obligated”

The Themes of Life: My years of Preparation, Profound Loss and Recovery

“To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven” Ecclesiastes 3:1 Life ebbs and flows, there are ups and downs and cycles and seasons. Recognizing the season you’re in while its occurring and even after it has ended can offer valuable insight. You will avoid the pitfalls of self-pityContinue reading “The Themes of Life: My years of Preparation, Profound Loss and Recovery”

Remember Your Future

Everything is created twice. There is a mental/emotional creation and a physical creation. How we generally think of this concept is that the mental creation occurs first in our minds and the physical creation or manifestation will follow. “Begin with the end in mind” is based on the principle that all things are created twice.Continue reading “Remember Your Future”

Trauma Bonding with TV: Why I stopped Watching “My 600-lb Life”

“Don’t cling so tightly to your hurt, that you don’t make room for your healing” Lisa Olivera I spend so much time at the grocery store that I’ve made friends with the lady who works in the bakery. At least twice a week we talk about intermittent fasting, dating and relationships, skin care tips andContinue reading “Trauma Bonding with TV: Why I stopped Watching “My 600-lb Life””

The Three Mistakes Black Women Make at the Gym

I’ve had a gym membership for 11 years. Over the years I’ve seen way more white women than black women working out (a different article for a different day). And when I do see black women in the gym I notice we consistently make the same mistakes. Notice I say “we”. I too have madeContinue reading “The Three Mistakes Black Women Make at the Gym”

The Men Who Lie to Have Us

“Loving you was like going to war; I never came back the same” Warsan Shire Some men will be attracted to your light, desire to have access to that light and will do anything to get it, even if it means lying or withholding information. He sees the rarity, the uniqueness. He knows that hisContinue reading “The Men Who Lie to Have Us”