Transcending Survival: Are You Really the Strong Person You Believe?

“It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell” Buddha We live by the motto, “What doesn’t kill you, only makes you stronger”. But contrary to popular belief, just because you survivedContinue reading “Transcending Survival: Are You Really the Strong Person You Believe?”

Harpo, Who Dis Woman…Discovering Your Purpose and Greatest Truth

“But the question that will most help you live your purpose is not what have I come here to do? But rather who have I come here to be” Unknown If you are wondering who you are or why you are here, I have a little bit of advice to offer you. This is fromContinue reading “Harpo, Who Dis Woman…Discovering Your Purpose and Greatest Truth”

You Don’t Need to Forgive to Be Free

I’ve always had a serious issue with the concept of forgiveness. It never made any sense to me and it never resonated with my spirit. Why should I, the one who was done wrong offer anything, especially forgiveness to one who has wronged me? Why does the onus now lie on me? Since when didContinue reading “You Don’t Need to Forgive to Be Free”

The Truth About Self-Love That No One Told You

“Self-love will save your soul” r.h Sin “Know thyself, accept thyself, love thyself, trust thyself, conquer and master thyself” Kathleen Richardson Everyone talks about self-love. What it is and what it looks like; its words, actions, habits, and deeds. But so many struggle with both grasping the concept of self- love and manifesting self-love intoContinue reading “The Truth About Self-Love That No One Told You”

Pity P****y and People Pleasing: I Lost Every Time

“If it is all burning and misery ahead, I hope the version of myself that is tired from rising from the ashes in the end shows up and keeps me from dancing into the fire to begin with” Upile Chisala I have been engaged in a deeper level of self-reflection and self-awareness lately. I mean,Continue reading “Pity P****y and People Pleasing: I Lost Every Time”

You Ain’t Married Yet? The Question Everyone is Asking

“Think not that you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy directs your course” Khalil Gibran I’ve been hearing this question a lot lately. Mainly from other women. The question is always framed with equal amounts of surprise, pity, and the thought that maybe something is secretly wrong withContinue reading “You Ain’t Married Yet? The Question Everyone is Asking”

Encourage Yourself: Tips to Avoid Slipping into Depression

“Not that I am happy with the suffering; I simply refuse to be defeated by it”. Huey P Newton I am prone to fall into depressive states. When a depression hits, all I want to do is eat, sleep, and feel sorry for myself. There are certain triggers that if not handled immediately, can sendContinue reading “Encourage Yourself: Tips to Avoid Slipping into Depression”

I Ain’t Got to do Nothin But Stay Black and Die: Why I’m no Longer Obligated

“All the lovely women living in your blood are trying to teach you their soft magic. Please pay attention to them” Upile Chisala I can still hear my Nanie’s (my maternal grandmother) words echoing, “I ain’t got to do nothing but stay black and die” when referring to something somebody told her she had ourContinue reading “I Ain’t Got to do Nothin But Stay Black and Die: Why I’m no Longer Obligated”

The Themes of Life: My years of Preparation, Profound Loss and Recovery

“To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven” Ecclesiastes 3:1 Life ebbs and flows, there are ups and downs and cycles and seasons. Recognizing the season you’re in while its occurring and even after it has ended can offer valuable insight. You will avoid the pitfalls of self-pityContinue reading “The Themes of Life: My years of Preparation, Profound Loss and Recovery”

Remember Your Future

Everything is created twice. There is a mental/emotional creation and a physical creation. How we generally think of this concept is that the mental creation occurs first in our minds and the physical creation or manifestation will follow. “Begin with the end in mind” is based on the principle that all things are created twice.Continue reading “Remember Your Future”