“Your past lives may hold many clues to help you navigate your future”
As a child I felt like I’d been here before. I stand in front of the mirror and stare at myself. I’d say, “this is me; I am me”. I’d repeat this over and over until I felt almost dizzy and had to stop. I couldn’t believe that I was here, again. But in church I was taught that you live once and then you die. And you either go to heaven or hell for eternity. That always seemed so…boring
“Occasionally, I think of death. I can easily believe in the disintegration of the body, but cannot believe that all I have learned, experienced, accumulated can disappear and be wasted. Like a river, it must flow somewhere”
I stopped doing that weird little exercise in the mirror and put the idea of past lives out of my head. I hadn’t given up on the idea. But life started coming at me fast and when life comes at you fast, you must brace yourself to live it, struggle through it and survive it.
And then my baby was born. When she was 4, she started saying things to me like, “You’re the best mom I’ve ever had”. “I’m so happy we are together again” (and here’s the kicker), “When they took me from you and put me on the wagon, I was so sad”. I was speechless.
“What cannot be said, will be wept”
Was my baby telling me about her past lives? And the ones she had with me? This led me to researching everything I could on past lives, reincarnation and past life regression. I learned about soul contracts, past life lovers, ancestral assignments, the Akashic Records and how birth marks can be an indication of how one died in a past life. My mind was both blown and soothed at the same time.
I wasn’t as weird or crazy as I thought. In 2017, I connected with someone who could tell you about your past life/lives. When I tell you that past life reading was life changing, it’s an understatement. Oh, how this life made so much more sense to me after that reading. Turns out, I was a slave. Twice! In my second life as a slave, I tried to escape. I was betrayed. My children had been sold from me (hence my daughter’s memory of us being separated) and I lost the man I loved. I was an herbalist and healer. I died alone…broken…
“I see it all. I feel it all. My eyes fill with tears”
This led me to learning about past life regression. This is a way in which your higher self can visit past lives. You can unlock people, places, events, and emotions of other lifetimes. It allows you to work through that karma, heal old wounds that you carry from life to life, and make some things right that went terribly wrong.
Oh, my heart swells at learning about my past lives. It’s given me so much insight into why I am the way I am. Lawd, I couldn’t understand why I hated white folks so much. It makes perfect sense now. Why I am an herbalist in this life, why my daughter was so clingy and why I have that oddly shaped birth mark on the left side of my forehead. I used to get teased about it as a child. They said it looked like a midget had slapped me lol (it’s shaped like a small hand). It all makes so much sense. Why I’ve searched for one particular man my whole life, looking for him in every man that came my way…pieces of a puzzle finally put together.
When I was a teenager I used to listen to the Quiet Storm every night on the radio. When I first heard Teena Marie’s song, Deja Vu I fell in love. That too now makes perfect sense. She sang, “I’m young and I’m old. I’m rich and I’m poor. Feels like I’ve been on this earth many times before…I can feel this for sure, for sure. I’ve been here before” …
My latest book, The Black Girl’s Guide to Healing: 10 Ways to Achieve a Healthy, Pain Free Period will be available for download on 8/14/2020.
Here is the introduction! I will be sharing excerpts from the book over the next week. Thank you for reading!
“We don’t want our wombs to hurt us any longer…we don’t have to have PMS. We don’t have to let our menses be a painful experience…That’s not who you truly are-the pain, the tightening, the fear”.
The purpose of this book is to provide 10 tried and true ways to have a healthy and pain free period. This book offers guidance on how to address the four most problematic issues of menstruation. When it comes to menstruation, most women struggle with the following:
Periods lasting longer than 4 days
Heavy, excessive bleeding
Long, heavy periods, lasting days or even weeks at a time, accompanied by painful and disruptive PMS symptoms have become a normal part of being a woman. I am here to tell you three things. Number one, this is NOT normal. Number 2, you have the power to heal yourself. And Number 3, you can have normal, healthy periods. Throughout the course of this book I will discuss my personal menstruation experience and how I was able to heal myself. I will discuss our painful history as black women in this country and delve into the inherent racism in gynecology. I will define what a normal period looks like and explain why we experience unhealthy periods. Lastly, I will provide the ten steps or rather ways of living, being and thinking (it’s a lifestyle) that will lead to a healthy and pain free period. The foundation to the Black Girl’s Guide to healing is to understand that you were destined to be your own healer.
How Long Will It Take?
Healing looks different for every woman, as no two women are the same. We have varying degrees of womb trauma and there will be varying degrees of commitment to the process. Once you start implementing the lifestyle changes outlined in the book, you may notice changes immediately. For most women, it will take 3 to 6 menstrual cycles (3-6 months) to see an improvement. For other women, it may take longer. The important thing to focus on is that it will work. As a melanated woman, you have the inherent power to heal yourself! Welcome to the Black Girl’s Guide to Healing.
“No religion will ever make me forget the condition of our people in this country…No God, no religion, no nothing will make me forget it until it stops, until its eliminated. I want to make that point clear”
I rarely make social media status updates about trending topics and I never feel compelled or inspired to blog about them. But, I was so moved by the Jonathan Isaac story I had to share my thoughts. For those of you who are unfamiliar, Jonathan Isaac, an ordained Minister and NBA player chose not to wear the Black Lives Matter T-shirt or kneel with the rest of his Black (and white) teammates during the singing of the National Anthem. In fact, he was the 1st in the NBA bubble to stand during the anthem. When asked why he made that decision he said the following:
“Kneeling or wearing a black lives matter t-shirt don’t go hand in hand with supporting black lives…my life has been supported through the gospel of Jesus Christ and that everyone is made in the image of God and that we all fall short of his glory….sometimes we point fingers about whose evil is worse, and sometimes it comes out as whose evil is most visible…I felt like I just wanted to take a stand on, I felt like we all make mistakes, but I think the gospel of Jesus Christ is that there is grace for us and that Jesus came and died for our sins, and that if we all would come to an understanding of that and understand that God wants to have a relationship with us, that we can get past skin color and we could get past all the things in our world that are messed up and jacked up. I think when you look around, racism isn’t the only thing that plagues our society…I feel like the answer to it is the gospel.
“If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor”
Then boom. He tears his ACL. Coincidence? Bad Luck? A bad play? An Injury prone player? The Magic’s president believes, “Absolutely, unequivocally that the ACL tear is not related to Isaac’s previous injury and was not brought back too soon”. Then someone on Instagram had the following explanation for this coincidental injury, “Since you don’t want to Take a knee, our ancestors will take it for you”. And I wholeheartedly agree!
“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about the things that matter”
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
That was Isaac’s karma, the repercussion and consequence for such an ignorantly horrifying decision. He serves as a prime example of what could happen when one chooses a religion rooted in white supremacy over your people. To reiterate what Malcom X said, “No religion will ever make me forget the condition of our people in this country…”.
We all can’t be a Nat Turner, Harriet Tubman, Denmark Vesey, Gabriel Prosser, Huey P. Newton, Assata Shakur, or Queen Nanny of the Maroons. Nor are we expected to be. We are not expected or obligated to make the sacrifice these courageous Blacks did. We are not expected to sacrifice our jobs, our families, or our lives to advance the cause of Black Empowerment. But as Dr. John Henrik Clark said, “Take what you do best and do it for your people”. For some of us, all that would entail is wearing a t-shirt and taking a knee. And Isaac couldn’t even do that. His action, or lack thereof was the ultimate betrayal to the ancestors and he used his religion to justify it. Again, he should serve as an example of what happens when you put anything and anyone over the ancestors.
We OWE our ancestors everything! We OWE them our undying and relentless loyalty, veneration, honor and respect. The reason we are here is because they chose to NEVER give up. The least we can do is use whatever platform we have been given to declare that their lives mattered! On the slave ship. Their black lives mattered. On the plantation. Their black lives mattered. As they were whipped and raped. Their black lives mattered. As mothers and fathers watched their children be sold to pay for wedding dresses and settle debts. Their black lives mattered. As they hung from trees. Their black lives mattered…Jonathan Isaac! Their black lives mattered.
“The ultimate tragedy is not the oppression and cruelty by the bad people but the silence over that by the good people”
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
The greatest atrocity in human history is MAAFA or the African/Black Holocaust. Alik Shahadah explains MAAFA as the, “500 years of suffering of people of African heritage through Slavery, imperialism, colonialism, apartheid, rape, xenophobia, oppression, invasions, and exploitation”. In America that includes the dehumanization, subjugation and oppression of chattel slavery, Jim Crow, and the nihilism found in the American ghetto, which Cornel West describes as meaninglessness, lovelessness and hopelessness. I am personally distraught and angered by the distinctly American White Supremacist act of lynching. Don’t forget these heinous murders were acted out by good Ole White Christian folk.
The body of 32-year-old Rubin Stacy hangs from a tree in Fort Lauderdale, Fla., as neighbors visit the site July 19, 1935. Stacy was lynched by a mob of masked men who seized him from the custody of sheriff’s deputies for allegedly attacking a white woman. (AP Photo)
Let’s face it, Evangelical White Christianity is the white man’s religion. It doesn’t matter how much one states, “Jesus was a black man”, the Christian doctrine undergirds and upholds white supremacy and black oppression. If your God looks like your oppressor, you are in big trouble. If the symbol of your savior is associated with the brutal murder of your ancestors, you are in big trouble. If you pray to the same God as the white man who calls you nigger, you are in trouble. If you aspire to go to a heaven where you’ll walk streets of gold with white supremacists who spilled blood on the streets on earth, you are in big trouble. If your religion teaches you to turn the other cheek and “love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you and pray for those who persecute you”, and you choose to follow that flawed teaching over declaring Black Lives Matter, you are lost.
“I believe in a religion that believes in freedom. Any time I have to accept a religion that won’t let me fight a battle for my people, I say to hell with that religion”
The groanings of our ancestors has yet to be heard. Their suffering has yet to be avenged. Their souls are not at rest and they are not at peace. We are obligated to stand for them (or kneel for them), the same way they have laid down their lives and at times their dignity for us. And when we don’t, we are going to be held accountable. There is a price to pay when you choose a white man, whether he is God or not, over your own flesh and blood. Jonathan Isaac didn’t take a knee and the ancestors took his.
Isaac has made a statment saying, “I still stand in Jesus name”. I don’t know about you, but I stand in the names of my ancestors; known and unknown…the nameless, the faceless, and the forgotten.
Kathleen Richardson is the Owner of Melanin Rich Wellness, whose mission is to optimize the physical, mental, and spiritual health of the black community. The pillars of Melanin Rich Wellness are African Holistic Health and Black Radicalism. She is a Published Author, Certified Holistic Nutritionist, Nutrition and Wellness Consultant, Vaginal Steam Facilitator and Yin Yoga Instructor. She is inspired by the healers, teachers, and warriors she lovingly calls her ancestors.
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