“The soul has no secret that the behavior does not reveal”
During this COVID-19 pandemic, I have had time to do something I haven’t really done since I was a teenager; watch lots of TV! While binge watching the show Ozarks and retightening my sisterlocs, I watched a scene where Marty talked about the butterfly effect. Then I remembered the movie, The Butterfly Effect and my mind started to wander…
Conceptually, the Butterfly Effect is when a small change in, “one state of a deterministic nonlinear system can result in large differences in a later state”. In other words, small causes may have momentous effects. The example most highlighted was that a butterfly flapping its wings could cause a tornado.
I began to think of small decisions or causes that have made momentous effects in my future; writing a social media post about the ancestors, posting a selfie with a caption about wolves, actively responding to a inbox message from one man, while overlooking another, or reading a particular book. All these singular, seemingly innocent, and perhaps insignificant events have completely changed the trajectory of my life. I can reflect and identify the butterfly effect in my life. And now, I understand what may seem to be an innocent, normal, or unsuspecting routine act or action has the potential to monumentally change my future.
Life is so beautiful. We are not innocent bystanders or unsuspecting civilian casualties of this sometimes war zone we call life. We are not the mere victims of fate or puppets on God’s string. We have the ability to create and manifest. We have the power to precipitate radical change in our lives. We must ask ourselves what small cause today will result in large effects for our future?
“Make medicine from your pain. Be that kind of warrior”
“Inexplicable sorrows await all of us” … Tragedy, pain, struggle, and loss are both inevitable and unavoidable in this life. You cannot be born, live and die unscathed from the heart breaking and soul crushing blows that will come knocking at your door. There are some things that we simply will be unable to recover from. We will be scarred and marred. We will never be the person we were before that experience changed us. There are some losses that can never be recouped or recovered. There will be some empty spaces that will never be filled.
We often wonder, why me? Why did this have to happen to me? We proclaim “I don’t deserve this”. But I have learned that if I chose to focus on the why, and my belief that I didn’t deserve what was happening, I would remain in a space where self-pity, confusion, and bitterness would be my forever companions.
But there is another space I have stumbled upon. A place where a rare flower called acceptance grows. To sit among the flower of acceptance has allowed me to hesitantly but courageously take my pain, mix it with the flower of acceptance and make medicine. I began to see my pain as the precious, but ugly gift that it is.
I learned that I could allow what has destroyed me to also become the building blocks to create a new life. I could allow each loss to be a stepping- stone to the new love, the new opportunities, and the new chances at happiness that joyously awaited me. I begin to view suffering and sorrow not as something to run from; but to face, and boldly ask, “What is it you are trying to teach me”. Cheryl Strayed has said, “Whatever happens to you. Make it yours. Feed it to yourself even if it feels impossible to swallow. Let it nurture you because it will”.
I have learned that life is not happening to me, but for me. And although I will not be able to go on as I once was, I will continue as I now am…
Not everyone will make the journey and stumble across the flower of acceptance. Not everyone will choose to make medicine from their pain. There is no judgement. We are each on a path, and perhaps your path does not include such a journey. But if you are being called to embark on this journey, know that you are built for this and you have been given everything you need to succeed.
*This post is an excerpt from my business partner Edward Williams, owner of Health By Any Means Necessary*
After months of begging her doctor to take her off a medication that she felt was only making her sicker, Donna had realized that she was being bullied.
She told me that she had vividly remembered how the energy in the room would change anytime she asked her doctor one question that might have opposed the advice of the doctor.
Donna told her doctor, “I just want to make sure there isn’t an alternative way to deal with this disease, because this medication is really making me feel like crap.”
Donna said, no matter what she asked her doctor as far as alternative methods, she felt like she was being judged, talked down to and intellectually intimidated.
“Of course, we can take you off your medications, but your diabetes will progressively get worst, and you may even have to get an amputation.”
Donna took his statements as a low blow, as she had told him previously that her brother had to get his leg amputated due to his diabetes, and it was what she feared most.
Donna asked, “What about food and exercise, do you have any recommendations for that?” He handed her a pamphlet from the American Diabetic Association, and told her to try this, but don’t stop your meds.
She felt trapped, Donna had worked as a school teacher all her life, and she didn’t know anything about medications, diabetes or weight-loss, but because of her job as a teacher, she was very familiar with bullies.
Donna’s oldest son (35 years old) happened to pay her a surprise visit one day, and although he was happy to see her, he was shocked when he saw the medications and glucose test strips on the counter.
Mamma, who’s, is this? Donna told me she remembers this like it was yesterday, as she had to regretfully tell her son that she was diabetic and had to take medications for it.
The mention of diabetes in her family immediately made everyone think of Donna’s brother who had the amputation, which caused his depression and so much more.
From there Donna told her son all about everything including her feeling bullied and not getting any help from her doctors at all. Her son immediately pulled out his phone and sent me a Facebook message. Her son was a customer and member of our Self-Care Alliance Tribe, and he was not about to let his mom feel bullied.
I immediately got Donna started on my type 2 diabetes program, which includes several fasting protocols. Of course, I told her to let her doctor know that she will be making lifestyle improvements and may need her medications adjusted during this time. She called her doctor and left a message with the nurses, who then told her to be careful of scams and ripoffs.
After six months of dedication and consistency, Donna went form 210 pounds down to 156 pounds, and she was feeling GREAT! Most of all she was excited about her energy and mental clarity.
I told Donna to get some blood work done so we can see what her HA1c was and she was more than happy to have it done.
Her HA1c levels went from 8.7 to 5.5, in other words, NO MORE DIABETES!!!
When I asked Donna what helped the most on her journey, she said “the guidance, accountability and the empowerment of knowing that it could be done was priceless!”
I know for a fact that there are WAAYYY more Donna’s out there that have no idea how to navigate through this health care system and this world of health improvement. What’s even more unfortunate is that many have no idea that one of their strongest weapons against diabetes and so many other conditions, is fasting.
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“The science of medicine can never replace the art of healing”
Dandelion leaf is one of my favorite herbs to work with. It is an outstanding healing herb! Some view dandleions as a nuisance; a weed, something to get rid of. But for the herbalist and the healer, the dandelion is a treasure. Dandelion has both medicinal and magical properties.
Benefits of Dandelion Leaf
Aids in divination and prophetic dreaming
Helps with digestion and complaints with the liver
High in plant estrogens
Regulates and normalizes reproductive hormone production
Aids the kidneys in eliminating excess water and toxins from the system
Helps relieve menstrual bloating, PMS, and breast tenderness
Rich source of vitamins A and C, iron, calcium, and potassium
Melanin Rich Wellness Recommendation
Every month, drink 2-3 cups of dandleion leaf tea everyday for 2 weeks. Then give your body a break for the remaining 2 weeks from the dandelion leaf tea. This is a great way to remove toxins from the liver and kidneys.
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